Parenting Quick Tips on How to Help Children Be More Functional in Adulthood

Key Point:

What else can we expect when the child is exposed to bad parenting

behavior? Family dysfunction WILL affect kids.

Tip #1

Help them deal with matters that they encounter whenever they ask for

help and guidance. Listen and advise them accordingly and even discuss

with them how best to overcome them.

Tip #2

Encourage them to share their problems and worries with you. Show

concern but never tell them to stop worrying or to stop crying. You

don't want them to think that keeping quiet is the best solution for

worries and concerns.

Tip #3

Pay attention to the process, not just the results. Praise them for

their achievements and also on how they came to do well.

Tip #4

Don't expect your child to be a better version of you. Encourage them

to be the best versions of themselves. Having their own identity,

aspirations, and ideals is so much better than having them be insecure

about themselves.

Tip #5

Help them set attainable goals and that it's ok to fail from time to

time because that's part of learning.

Tip #6

You want your child to grow up believing that decisions are made based

on facts and not fear. Therefore, do not threaten them to submit to

your intentions or to what's right by instilling in them the sense of

fear instead of what's right or wrong. You have to explain to them why

it's right or wrong and how you came to that conclusion.

Tip #7

Parenting is a shared responsibility and you mustn't encourage your

child to practice favoritism of which parent they like. They may just

grow up to be manipulative individuals.

Tip #8

Never use guilt as a weapon to get your child to do things. Don't say

things like "If you love me (more)..." or "Do you know how hard I

work..." etc. They may end up letting people they will meet later in

life use the same tactic on them OR they unto others.

Tip #9

Your child shall always be your child, no matter how old they become.

Solve your own problems on your own, do not engage them in the same

emotional distress that you have. They will grow up to be anxious

adults.

Tip #10

Children who grow up without the emotional support and presence may

struggle in becoming adults who are well balanced emotionally and with

healthy meaningful relationships with others.

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